Lately I have been feeling lost regarding pretty much every aspect in my life. From my study plans to my career path over to my relationship and my family up to the big question of where I want to live. I felt so much uncertainty and instability that all I was craving were answers and clarity. I wanted to finally “arrive” and be at a place where I could settle and be content with my life the way it was. I thought that if I just figured out where I wanted to live, what I wanted to do with my life and who I should be with, I would be happy.
All this lead me to live in my head and to overthink everything. Searching for the solution, for my personal “epiphany” made me feel stressed out, instead of getting me anywhere. I was so focused on finding answers, that I forgot to live along the way.
At one point I realize that the only thing that was really in my power was to let go and just keep doing what felt right, because as they say: It is not about the destination, it is about the journey. Life isn’t black or white, good or bad, a yes or a no- just because you haven’t fully figured something out, it doesn’t mean you are not on the right way. Similarly, if you are currently walking your path in life, but you don’t know where it will take you, keep going anyway- you don’t need to justify or explain something that feels good to you. Feeling lost and questioning everything is oftentimes viewed as a struggle, whereby it can be a good thing, because it helps you to review your current life situation, adjust anything that is not getting you to where you want to be and it encourages you challenge old habits and beliefs.
We are so obsessed with arriving somewhere, with achieving something and with being someone. However, if we don’t appreciate the path that gets us there, no matter how great the outcome may be, it will feel meaningless.
The truth is: you don’t need to have your shit figure out right now. You don need to know what job you want to work in for the rest of your life, you don’t need to be with the person who you are going to marry and nor do you need to reach all your life goals in the next 2 years. Life is a process and there are plenty of tomorrows. All you have to do is be happy with what you have and with what you are doing. If you are not, have the courage to choose a new path at the next intersection in your life. Your passion and your love towards the things and the people in your life should be your navigation system along the way, not the opinions of others or that of society.
“We are so obsessed with arriving somewhere. Truth is: you don’t need to have your shit figure out right now. You don need to know what job you want to work in for the rest of your life, you don’t need to be with the person who you are going to marry and nor do you need to reach all your life goals in the next 2 years. There are plenty of tomorrows.”
There is a time and place for everything. If a certain situation or decision doesn’t come easy to you right now, there is a reason for that and sometimes the best you can do is to let it go and let life do its thing. We shouldn’t force ourselves into a certain path just for the sake of arriving. We shouldn’t make decision just for the sake of security and clarity. By doing so, we would completely skip the process and jump straight to the outcome. This leaves out any opportunity for change, failure and improvement. Only by embarking on a path you will be able to tell if it is the right one for you, and if it is not, you can still make changes along the way.
One day you will realize that following your way, living, taking in every moment, failing miserably and trying again was what made your life to the unique experience that it is. Please don’t skip the development, the life lessons, the heartbreak, the love, the tears, the surprises and the dreams for a comfortable and safe solution. Eventually everything will fall into place and you will understand exactly what every step along the way was supposed to teach you and why things happened the way they did.
Keep trusting. Keep dreaming. And most importantly: keep going.
Life is a journey, not a destination.